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Couples & marriage counseling

Hope for clear communication and connection with the one you care about.

Couples counseling in Medford and online across Oregon, for partners facing distance, arguing, broken trust, or a hard season of life.

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How couples counseling works

Skills you can learn quickly, made for the two of you

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I teach specific skills and attitudes that have been shown to build relationships. After an assessment, I customize them for your relationship, and they can be learned quickly.

I actively guide our conversations so they stay productive and not hurtful. And either or both of you can start change, even if only one of you is ready today.

Couples counseling can help you find:

  • Less conflict and more calm
  • Healing from anger and affairs
  • Forgiveness, respect, and affection with sexual intimacy

What we work on

What couples bring to counseling

We set your goals together at the initial consultation. These are some of the most common.

  • Communication

    Talk about hard things without hurting each other, and feel heard again.

  • Distance & withdrawal

    When one or both of you have pulled away and you feel more like strangers than partners.

  • Trust & infidelity

    Healing after an affair, internet use or broken promises, with responsibility, not judgment.

  • Affection & intimacy

    When affection or sexual interest has faded and talking about it feels hard.

  • Hard seasons

    Stay connected through depression, a chronic illness, separation, or a big life change.

  • Marriage enrichment

    For engaged couples and couples who want to grow stronger, with Prepare/Enrich.

What to expect

How getting started works

  1. Send a text

    Your scheduling limits, and private pay or insurance.

  2. Free phone conversation

    A brief call to see if we're a good fit.

  3. Initial consultation

    What's happening, and your goals.

  4. Your plan

    At least four more sessions.

Research-based approaches

  • Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
  • Gottman Method (advanced couples training)
  • Internal Family Systems (IFS)
  • Prepare/Enrich
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In person

Counseling in Medford, in the Rogue Valley.

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Online

Secure telehealth sessions for couples anywhere in Oregon.

Questions about couples counseling

Before you start

More answers are on the Fees & FAQ page.

Barbara Massey, LMFT

Still have a question? Ask on the free first phone call.

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Can one of us start alone?

Yes. Either or both of you can start change, and your partner can join later.

Is faith part of counseling?

Only if you want it to be. Faith-based counseling is available for Christian couples, and you decide how faith is discussed.

Can couples from outside the Rogue Valley come?

Yes. Couples from other Oregon cities often choose an intensive: closely spaced sessions, up to 20 hours, focused on one issue. Online sessions are also available anywhere in Oregon.

Get started

Take the first step

Text or email with your name, your scheduling limits, and whether you'll pay privately or use insurance. The first phone conversation is free.

Email Barbara

Please keep texts and emails brief and leave out sensitive details. We can talk about everything on the phone.

In crisis? Therapy is not an emergency service. Call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or call 911.